..."Can I Tie You Up & Spank You Maybe?"-If We Are Compatible MayBe I Will Consider Allowing You To Spank Me...

Meeee!!!!

After joining the fetlife group' Return to sender'. I have started to question why I am bothering to get back into the scene, just to find a decent Dom/spanker. The group is just a constant reminder of just how rude & ignorant a lot of people are. Do I really want to put myself in that situation...

Nope! I don't need the crap these ignorant types bring...Its supposed to be 'fun', FFS! Yeah. I could go to munch meets, go back to parties, but...Ummm! I'm not sure if I want to put that much effort into it. Going to munches & parties cost money. I'd rather spend my money on something I can keep & get pleasure from everyday...

Preferably,
without the mock
'I am serious'
'I am angry'
tone, thank you...
Just because we both love it...

Like my garden. My home. Spending time with my husband, rather then a Dom. Its a pity he is not into the whole spanking thing. Not even to turn me on, so he...Well you know...

My perfect D/s relationship in list form...Not necessarily in order of preference...

• 1] Friendship. As in. He treats me the same way he would treat his friends...'Not just a bottom'
• 2] He makes the effort to keep in touch with me in between our spanking 'play' sessions...Not just to make an appointment once a month or so...I don't need daily attention, just a few emails each week will do to keep in touch...
• 3] He sees me as his equal. A grown woman in her 40's, with a husband, kids & a vanilla life...I do not need a 'mentor' or 'disciplinarian' thank you very much...Unless of course you are 101% perfect in every way, then I may consider giving you that power over me...Or not, lol...
• 4] If he is a very busy man, which I understand. It would be nice to be his priority after his work & vanilla life. As in 'Vanilla life-Me-Other bints in the scene'. If by any chance he wants to pleasure LOTS! of other women. {Fair enough, I'm not his wife, it's none of my business}. So has not got time to see me every other week, or to stay in contact. Please let me know, so I can 'Call it a day' then move on...
• 5] I used to play every other week, but actually, now, I think once a month is fine, as long as we keep in touch & act like we know each other in between...
• 6] Of course he has to be VERY good at spanking women for pleasure. Real spanking. With almost unbearable pain, but nooo bleeding or black bruises which take days to heal...
• 7] He has to be into spanking mainly, maybe mild BDSM. As opposed to 'EXTREME! scary BDSM!'. Some of these blokes remind me of criminal minds..."Yaaakes!'...
• 8] I don't mind my Dom/spanker being a switch, but I do prefer it that he is at least 50/50. If he was forced to choose one or the other & feels he would choose receiving...Bye-Bye. Have fun with a woman spanking you...
• 9] I don't mind my Dom/spanker being into role play {It is none of my business, after all}...but I am not into role play, I prefer to be myself when I am playing...
• 10] My Dom/spanker, will not be into 'Domming' me 24/7. I am only submissive in play. I would prefer he was only a Dom in play. Nooo! bossy, arrogant, pompous attitude towards me, thank you...
• 11] My Dom/spanker will not mind my quiet personality. If he prefers the more bratty, naughty sub. I won't be the sub for him...I have got a sense of humor. Usually misunderstood. I think it is too dry for many to understand...{Rolls eyes}

Just a short list. I'm sure I could think of more...

Nuff said, for now...