Bespoke Dom-

I was just visiting Bs to see if there is anything interesting to read & check out the personals...I came across this personal...

" The lady knows very well what she wants and needs thank you.

The lady knows very well in her head what her ideal spanker would be like. She does not enjoy or respond well to being told in a message what a DOM would do to her - 'take it or leave it' - 'One size fits all' - 'Off the peg'.

Hmmm! Off the peg. This is where I used to enjoy party play. The play lasted about 15 minutes. There was no pressure. Just chat {That helps} Play. Quick hug, say thank you, sit back down with my friend & glass of red wine. Until the next Dom/spanker came along...

Yeah. Some people I did not want to play with. It was usually more a case of their attitude. Like getting up in face & insisting I go with him to be punished 'young lady'. My response was 'No!' Usually more like 'No-No-No-' Almost getting to 'what part of NO! don't you understand-FUCK OFF!', but those two peeps on two separate occasions got the hint before I got to 'FUCK OFF!'...

He would be firm when necessary,

Only in play, because I love being spanked 'Hard!'...Strict, serious, DOMINATING! me, is a real turn off...

yet caring,

I would hope he would be a caring person, not an arse hole with women issue...

sensitive,

Not overly sensitive, please. I can't be doing with 'Sensitive' guys...Sensitive to other peoples feelings, yes, but not all 'defensive' sensitive guy...

intelligent,

Intelligent, yes, but I do like men with 'Common sense'...

trustworthy

That helps. I need to trust he is not going to go too far once I'm out of it...I could trust my now Ex Dom to stop when my bottom could not take anymore. I would be off in sub land, be floating. Feeling no pain, just a hot, tingly sensation, but he would not take that as the time to hit me harder & harder until I reacted, until my bottom was bruised, swollen & bleeding...No. If anything he would hit me more gently...I was a lucky sub...Now I just need to find a Dom/spanker I can trust enough to totally relax & let go, who will not to go too far & cause me damage...

and have a good sense of humour. 

That helps. I'm more for light hearted mutual adult fun, then 'serious' 'punishment' 'being DOMINATED!'...

He would be very experienced in designing and delivering carefully crafted bespoke chastisement, based on her individual special wants/needs/limits and desires. 

Eh?...Ohhh! Yeah. He would be up for discussion & listen to what I have to say & vice versa...

He would also be available for regular confidential chats,

Ummm! Well. I know some women need daily attention. I just prefer emails in between as friends. Maybe the odd text. Conversation rather then my own personal therapist/psychiatrist...Friends. Equals. Peers, you know...Adults have a friendly, sometimes confidential chat...

especially at times when it all feels like too much stress,pressure and frustration.

Ummm! I can understand where some women suffer from depression etc, so need a...Ummm! What? I dunno. Because I have always been a independent person. I can talk to my husband. So technically I am not looking for emotional support, just a descent, trustworthy Dom/spanker for friendship with 'intimate' spanking benefits. I don't want to play with lots of near strangers...
 

She may struggle at times with life/work/family goals balance and/or studies,

Ummm! Doesn't that go for EVERYone. Including the Doms/spankers. Isn't that life. To me the spanking is for fun, lots of pleasure, relaxation, a release...but that goes for both of us. As in my Dom/spanker would get as much pleasure from spanking me as I get from being spanked...

and might also benefit from mentoring by a mature male former university tutor, living in East Anglia. 

Nope! I don't need no 'mature male' wisdom. Yeah. I'll listen to what he has to say in conversation, but I don't need a 'life coach'...

If that rings any bells and then do message me for further NSA discussion.
Tony."

It is a good personal...'Bespoke spanker'. Moulded to fit...

Sooo! 6' +, Medium build. Stomach flat enough or thighs long enough to accommodate me over his lap. Strong enough to take the weight. If I happen to put all my weight on his lap & start kicking when in almost unbearable pain. You can see how that would just work, if you was a scrawny short geezer, lol...

Nuff said for now...