A Submissive After My Own Heart-No We're Not Talking Girl On Girl Here, Guys...

Ohh! Yeess!
I have got a bloomer
thing going on...
I prefer bloomers
to lingerie...

I was just browsing through Fetlife. I came across accidental flirts writing...

• Submissive. Yes, I am a submissive. I want to submit to one person... to be his everything. But I do not want a 24/7 total power exchange relationship. I have my own mind, and I will speak it freely. I have a voice, which I expect to be heard. I have no desire to be told how to live every moment of every day... I manage that very well on my own, thank you very much. Whilst pleasing my Dom is paramount, I do not find pleasure in service... domestic chores or maid service, are not the dreams that my stuff is made of.

This part of her great journal wossy, could have been written for me, this is how I see myself as a submissive. Its nice to see I'm not the only one. Because I did start to wonder "Am I a submissive? Or just one of those spankees, everyone labels us women into spanking, who are not into being 'Dominated!' by a bossy control freak?"...The whole 'spankee' thing is another blog...

& there is more which I can relate to me...

• Masochist/Pain slut: I enjoy pain. I can take pain... some people say I’m “hardcore,” although I kinda disagree. Pain is pleasure... pain is foreplay... pain is fun. Pain is never simply about pain. Frankly, if I’m very honest... it’s about getting me off... but that only works if he’s enjoying himself too. I’m a submissive... my pleasure only comes through his pleasure.

I love being given a long, hard, intense thrashing. For pleasure, never punishment. I don't feel thrashing someone into spanking for punishment is a good thing. After all. I love being thrashed, so wheres the punishment? The punishment would be not spanking me...

Ohh! Yeah! "The punishment starts when you want me to stop" wossy. Okay! but when do I want you to stop? I don't. So you end up beating the $%$£$$%, probably causing me damage. Wow! Great! Punishment for life...

I know there is the getting into your head wossy. So you don't have to resort to beating the £$%$$£ out of me...but...There is a very fine line between getting into your head during a play session & emotional abuse...

I know. Just go with the flow, but what if you have already gone through £$%%$ with some bloke you thought you could trust & come out feeling VERY! wary. I'm talking about my Ex, before my Ex. Did he even like women, FFS! I know my recent Ex Dom got pleasure pleasuring women. I know he liked women. I know he just wanted to spank them & give them pleasure, not screw with their minds...

Nuff said!

Theres more which I can relate to...

• Exhibitionist/Voyeur: Oh, this one needs a writing all of its own. I enjoy public play, but I don’t enjoy getting caught. I like being watched... and I like watching... but not in the “oooh I might get spotted”/peeping Tom kind of way. It’s mutual, consensual voyeurism for the benefit of all involved.

I love playing in the woods, but I don't like playing where I can get caught by some poor unsuspecting vanilla person walking their dog. That would be embarrassing for both of us. Mind you, the sound of spanking dunarf vibrate & echo around...