BDSM VS Spanking-Do I Know What I Am Talking About-Probably Not...

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I was having a discussion with 'F' about BDSM. He believes I don't know much about BDSM. He said that in a nice the nicest possible way. He also thinks that my first spanking experiences had an effect on the way I see BDSM...

Maaaybe...but...I disagree...

As 'F' said...

" ...its good to have friends like you x "

"...we kind of compliment each other  "

I said 'Ditto x'...

Anyway. We was having a discussion as friends. There was nooo arguing going on. Some people could learn the art of 'Discussing' 'Debating' Sharing views. Not getting all aggy & bitchy. That includes a few men too, lol. Men can be bitchy too...

Anyway. As I was saying before I got side tracked. BDSM & my lack of knowledge. Or have I just met the wrong BDSM peeps?

I know BDSM peeps have their 'Etiquette'. From my experience they are polite & more grown up in a lot of cases. Mind you. I have met an arrogant Masterly bloke at a BDSM event. He seemed to have issues with 'Spanking' & women who are mainly into spanking & 'Gasp!' asking if she wanted to play. I got a sneer & sarcasm...Oops! I forgot to read the BDSM! 'Etiquette' handbook...

A mere 'Un collared' submissive asking a 'Master' if he would like to play...TERRIBLE!...{Yawns!} I could just learn the etiquette, or stay away & just go to spanking parties. I chose to stay away & go to spanking parties. Well right up until I took a few years off...

If I go to a spanking party, I can ask to be spanked. Though of course, as a sub I kind of prefer the Dom to chat to me then ask me. Chatting to a fem sub is good. Waiting for her to come to you, she is less likely to ask. I get that the Dom feels he can't come over to ask. Through embarrassment of being rejected, then having to walk away, looking like a rejected morron...

Not that I consider them morons. I used to play with a lot of Dom's. I asked a few to spank me. I have come across a few nob's in my time as well. It is a spanking party. The £15 you paid to get in, did not entitle you to play with any fem sub you choose. You need to pay £150 for a 'private' party, for that privilege...

See. I don't think like a submissive, do I. I don't think like a so called spankee either. I think the label given to women just into spanking, was given by the more BDSM people. To me it is play. Is it play to the more into sm peeps? Or is it a 24/7 'lifestyle'. Is it only a 24/7 lifestyle because that is what they are into, or is that part of the 'BDSM' norm? Can you be a Master or Mistress; sub or slave, just in play, but equals; peers 'friends' the rest of the time...

I know I sound 'dumb'. I'm sure there are a few snarky BDSM peeps out there to sneer at me...Ummm! lol...I do literally 'lol'. Because when someone sneers at me for not saying the righteous 'Etiquette' subbie thing. I kinda of think. Ohhh! You're a arrogant nob...I am not a very good submissive/slave. I have attitude towards arrogant 'Masterly' people. Because to me it is play. They can be sooo serious & scary. Not quaking in my boots scary, more wary...

I suppose I have had the misfortune to meet arrogant types. Its funny. One time. At a BDSM event. The same BDSM event as the sneering man. This bloke was such a pompous arse. I tried to chat to him. Asked him about playing. Ohhh! Myyy! submissives do not ask about playing. WTF! was I thinking. Well I wasn't thinking was I...

Anyway. There was a nice couple arrived. The woman was Domming her slave. The pompous arse who was lacking the people skills to ask & answer questions. You know 'Conversation'...Jeeze! & I'm the quiet one. The wallflower apparently. Yeah. If wall flowers get spanked a lot by lots of men 'At SPANKING! parties' that is...

Anyway. He decided to take the piss out of me. Him & the Domme woman were looking at me & laughing. I held their gaze until they stopped laughing & looked away, looking uncomfortable. The best fun we had at that event was the young sub bloke who was going around saying inappropriate things to people. He managed to offend more people then me & thats saying something...

Sooo! Do I study the BDSM 'Etiquette' handbook. Learn how to be a 'real submissive/slave' Or stick to being a 'spankee' with submissive tendencies whilst playing. Actually. When I am among pompous, arrogant, sneering 'Domly/Masterly' types I tend to...Ummm!...rebel. Or just basically take the pee...

I am too strong minded to completely allow a Dom that much power over me. Maybe if we had that close connection, where I can trust him not to push me too far. I like my limits being pushed. If I trust a person enough I can relax & let go enough for them to do anything they want to me...within reason...

Actually. I used to really enjoy playing with MW. I somehow trusted him...Certain Dom's can bring out the 'true' submissive in me & it's nothing to do with their reputation. In fact. MW has got a negative reputation. I chose to make up my own mind & found that he is one Dom I could add BDSM/ submissive to my subbie resume...Though it was more party play, then one to one play...

Another Dom I played with one to one a few times. I could submit to him as well. Mainly because he was more a 'spanking Dom' then a scary 'Master!' into 'Extreme' BDSM...

Hmmm! My main issue with 'being a femsub, doing what I want to do, with Dom's I enjoy playing with & trust not to cause me any harm'...Bints! Jealous manipulative 'Bints'. I don't want to make lovely friends with the bints. Can't they just get over themselves & leave me be, to play with the Dom's 'I enjoy playing with'...Sooo! much drama. Sooo! much attention seeking. Sooo! much unnecessary bickering & bullying **nt-ness......

Yes. I am joining in by blogging about them. I am allowing them space in my head. I am dwelling...Actually. I am blogging. What goes in my blog stays in my blog. It does not carry on in my head. Sometimes certain things are best ignored. Rise above. Let it go. Move on. People will always be people. I am more of a non conformist, so maybe that is why I can't label myself. Being a so called spankee is safer. Less dealing with so called wannabes. Though everyone has to start somewhere & learn from their mistakes...

Blogging is a place to write your thoughts. YOUR! thoughts, in a self centered, it's ALL about me, way. More people should write blogs. That way they might not be sooo! up themselves in forums & at parties...Just saying...

Its like, once. At a munch meet. Some bloke, who was very 'Community' minded. Said he did not like blogs. A weasel of a little perv man, sneered. I chose not to point out that 'Mister community' man writes more comments then I blog. That he fills my news feed, with all his MANY comments. Apparently his comments are to show what a nice guy he is. Yep! Your a nice guy. I have given you kudos when I agreed with you. You still need to start a blog...As for sneer, weasel man. You need to stop being a manipulative A hole...Maybe you should get a blog. Then I can read what you have to say & sneer. Or. In true weasel style. Comment, then sit back & watch you go...

Maybe he meant it in a less A hole way. Why would you want to wind me up? Thats not nice is it...

What it comes down to. I love being spanked. I trust certain Dom's enough to submit to them completely, without holding back...

I don't like certain people. Nasty people who bully & cause unnecessary drama, that is. Play comes before socialising. Though I enjoy socializing with people I get on with. Play comes before socialising with like minded peeps. They're not usually like minded where I'm concerned, lol...

Friendship is more important then being a submissive to a self en- titled Domly fellow...So. No attention seeking childish bints. No bullies. No sarcastic A holes. If you don't like me. Because I don't fit your ideal. Then stay away from me. That is your business none of mine. I keep myself to myself for a reason. I am reserved for a reason. I chat to approachable, descent genuine people because they don't cause unnecessary drama...

That Dom. Who you lot gossip about because he hit you too hard with a strap. I enjoy playing with him. If he hurts me too much. I tell him it hurts too much. Not say nothing then go & spread gossip that he hurt me. What. He tied you down by force, gagged you, then beat %^&^^ out of you. Ummm!

I will shut up now...

See. Blogs are self centred. You can be as opinionated & righteous as you like...Yes. I do have some bitch tendencies & maybe my pointing out some peoples flaws is bullying, but hey...Its a blog...

Bints. Please feel free to disagree. In your blog...

Right. I am definitely shutting the **ck up now. I am beginning to get on my own nerves, lol...

Nuff said for now......................................................................